Today my lovely guest is Steffie Vandierendonck. We met through the Amazing Biz and Life Academy and she came all the way to Ghent to eat pancakes with me and chat about finding our purpose, doing work we love and making a difference. She recently gave me great advice about making decisions and being more intuitive, since I've been struggling with choosing a career path here in Belgium. Here's a bit of her wisdom:
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Can you make a decision based on faith? Can you listen to your intuition and be ok?
Last year I went looking for a coaching program to invest in and always seem to have some part holding me back.
It was a money issue of course but there was also more to it. At some point I really started believing that money shouldn't stop us. We take a leap of faith, invest what we have, see two steps ahead of us an trust that the rest will come to us when we need it.
So why isn't that enough?
When I investigated what was still holding me back I came up with the answer that it was TIME. I felt I wouldn't have the time to implement all of the things I was about to learn. And I know some coaches would call this a lame excuse or some subconscious block that is in desperate need of healing. But what if it is something else? What if it is our intuition reaching out?
I know that this feeling came from an inner knowing of already having a lot of resources at my disposal and needed to implement those first before moving on to another level.
It was knowing that I didn't have to go look outside of myself but rather turn inside and retrace steps to see what I had missed.
Don't be fooled by the heart!
These days we talk a lot about getting out of our head and deciding with our heart. But there is a catch to this we all seem to forget.
It is true that our head is the place of logic and reason. It is our reptilian brain of instinct and survival. And we go and question everything as a way to protect ourselves. Through evolution we have learned that this can take us too far and the fears are no longer rational.
However in turning to our heart we let our emotions take over. It is like jumping from one pool into another one. Yes our heart is the place of love and positive feelings. It will tell us what we want, what we long for and what we dream of. And those words describe the energy that goes with it.
What feels good isn't always in our best interest. It can be the energy of a child wanting a toy and wanting it right there and then. If you long for something you can become needy or depend on it. It will make you feel lost, even more than before, when that certain things goes. That is why we say our heart aches when we lose someone.
That's why we should stop listening just to our hearts and go even deeper to our gut feelings.
Feeling with your gut, those energy centers around your belly button and womb, that's where your true intuition is situated. It is a place of peace, being grounded and having a deep calm inner knowing. Here you will be able to make serene choices and take guided action.
In this place you will know that the path ahead of you can be tough and scary (mind) but no matter if it feels positive or negative right now (heart) it will end up being exactly what you needed to grow as a person. Here money won't be an issue anymore and time won't matter either because everything will come to you when you need it.
If it feels wrong following another program right now due to timing, this opportunity will come back to you when you need it and there will still be diamonds of insight to be found in what you already know. If you do decide to take a next step you will pick up the things you need to hear from that right there and then. The rest will sink into your subconscious waiting until you are ready for it.
So what choice should you make?
I have found the hardest choices are the ones you don't get answers to.
Sometimes no matter how far you look, how many tarot cards you read or how much you meditate on it your intuition and gut feeling won't speak to you. They will remain silent and truly leave you on your own. Those choices are the ones where it truly DOES NOT MATTER WHAT YOU DECIDE.
All of the options can be right for you. They will just be showing different aspects of yourself that are waiting to be cultivated. They will both take you somewhere else but you will still be you when you get there and you will still be ok. The only mistake you can make here is not choosing anything at all.
Just do something... Pick... and try it out for a month. If it doesn't end up to be for you you will still be able to change your mind and choose again.
I will admit this was a very hard lesson for me to learn.
But then I remembered what Rozlyn Warren said to me: ' I can do all of those things myself, but I choose not to.'
It is better to pick one thing and become really good at it then to keep doubting and see other people living your dreams.
If there is a price you'll have to pay than pay it both literary an figuratively speaking.
And for those things you don't end up doing there will always be someone else doing it for you. Some coach, healer or employee at your local store will reach those people for you making the world a better place for all of us.
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Can you make a decision based on faith? Can you listen to your intuition and be ok?
Last year I went looking for a coaching program to invest in and always seem to have some part holding me back.
It was a money issue of course but there was also more to it. At some point I really started believing that money shouldn't stop us. We take a leap of faith, invest what we have, see two steps ahead of us an trust that the rest will come to us when we need it.
So why isn't that enough?
When I investigated what was still holding me back I came up with the answer that it was TIME. I felt I wouldn't have the time to implement all of the things I was about to learn. And I know some coaches would call this a lame excuse or some subconscious block that is in desperate need of healing. But what if it is something else? What if it is our intuition reaching out?
I know that this feeling came from an inner knowing of already having a lot of resources at my disposal and needed to implement those first before moving on to another level.
It was knowing that I didn't have to go look outside of myself but rather turn inside and retrace steps to see what I had missed.
Don't be fooled by the heart!
These days we talk a lot about getting out of our head and deciding with our heart. But there is a catch to this we all seem to forget.
It is true that our head is the place of logic and reason. It is our reptilian brain of instinct and survival. And we go and question everything as a way to protect ourselves. Through evolution we have learned that this can take us too far and the fears are no longer rational.
However in turning to our heart we let our emotions take over. It is like jumping from one pool into another one. Yes our heart is the place of love and positive feelings. It will tell us what we want, what we long for and what we dream of. And those words describe the energy that goes with it.
What feels good isn't always in our best interest. It can be the energy of a child wanting a toy and wanting it right there and then. If you long for something you can become needy or depend on it. It will make you feel lost, even more than before, when that certain things goes. That is why we say our heart aches when we lose someone.
That's why we should stop listening just to our hearts and go even deeper to our gut feelings.
Feeling with your gut, those energy centers around your belly button and womb, that's where your true intuition is situated. It is a place of peace, being grounded and having a deep calm inner knowing. Here you will be able to make serene choices and take guided action.
In this place you will know that the path ahead of you can be tough and scary (mind) but no matter if it feels positive or negative right now (heart) it will end up being exactly what you needed to grow as a person. Here money won't be an issue anymore and time won't matter either because everything will come to you when you need it.
If it feels wrong following another program right now due to timing, this opportunity will come back to you when you need it and there will still be diamonds of insight to be found in what you already know. If you do decide to take a next step you will pick up the things you need to hear from that right there and then. The rest will sink into your subconscious waiting until you are ready for it.
So what choice should you make?
I have found the hardest choices are the ones you don't get answers to.
Sometimes no matter how far you look, how many tarot cards you read or how much you meditate on it your intuition and gut feeling won't speak to you. They will remain silent and truly leave you on your own. Those choices are the ones where it truly DOES NOT MATTER WHAT YOU DECIDE.
All of the options can be right for you. They will just be showing different aspects of yourself that are waiting to be cultivated. They will both take you somewhere else but you will still be you when you get there and you will still be ok. The only mistake you can make here is not choosing anything at all.
Just do something... Pick... and try it out for a month. If it doesn't end up to be for you you will still be able to change your mind and choose again.
I will admit this was a very hard lesson for me to learn.
But then I remembered what Rozlyn Warren said to me: ' I can do all of those things myself, but I choose not to.'
It is better to pick one thing and become really good at it then to keep doubting and see other people living your dreams.
If there is a price you'll have to pay than pay it both literary an figuratively speaking.
And for those things you don't end up doing there will always be someone else doing it for you. Some coach, healer or employee at your local store will reach those people for you making the world a better place for all of us.
Steffie Vandierendonck is an empowerment coach helping intuitives and chronically ill balance their life while building a biz in a natural fulfilling way. Steffie can teach you how to re-connect with your creative feminine essence, cultivate your masculine power to take action and harness the bigger energies out there to stop going against stream and find your own flow. She does this through the Balance Formula which you can download a free copy of at www.vibrationalchameleon.com
