You can’t wait to get that piece of paper with a Yes on it and instead you get a No?
You’re dreaming about the day all the waiting is over and you can get decent work and move out of your in-laws’ like a good grown-up but instead life (the government) says: “Hold on! You haven’t wasted much of your time yet. You haven’t learned enough about patience yet! Let's play this game again!”?
First you refuse to believe, then you cry, then you start imagining all worst case scenarios, then you have a laugh and then you cry some more.
Well, we talked it over with a friend and I slept on it.
The day after, I decided not to be sad. Even though we hadn’t found a solution yet, I chose to believe we would figure it out and it would be alright.
I cleaned up the room – changed sheets, dusted, vacuumed and lit a scented candle.
Cleaning helps me put my thoughts in order.
I took a nice long shower, washed and conditioned my hair, scrubbed with a sponge and shaved; brushed and flossed my teeth.
I plucked out my eyebrows, applied a cleansing product on my face and moisturized my body.
I felt light, fresh and beautiful.
I turned off my computer and read a book instead.
I put on my bikini and sat outside soaking in some sun. The energy boost I needed!
I took a nap and felt invigorated.
It was a little improvised ritual that helped clear up my thoughts and calm down.
The problem was still there and I was still worried, but I opened space for reason, clarity and hope, pushing and shrinking the anxiety to the small dark corner of my mind.
For a moment I felt defeated and lost. It wasn’t funny, but today I can see there’s always a way.
If you’ve had shitty news or just a stinky day, resist the urge to sulk. It won’t get you anywhere and it’ll sure give you wrinkles and white hair. Take a little time and improvise a relaxing retreat!